This journey called “Life” can be quite interesting at times as you strive to be the person you were meant to be and live the life you were meant to live. Many of you are beginning to notice yourselves more and are wondering why the heck you still behave the way you do and can’t stop thinking the way you always have, even now, when you feel you should know better!
As you become more and more aware of yourself and the recognition of your personal responsibility in what you are creating for your life, you can also begin to uncover the stories you have created along the way that may be keeping you stuck in an undesirable situation and apart from living your best life. This is not usually an easy task.
Your stories were a very important part of your survival—you needed your stories to cope. Your stories were brilliant adaptations by your ego to protect you from your fears. If you are lacking in any way today, whether it be money, love, or health, you can most likely attribute it to “Your Story” or what you have chosen to believe about yourself in relation to those things up to this point. Your stories are your perception of what you are capable of or deserve and are deeply held beliefs, and some of those beliefs may be keeping you from the abundance, love and peace you desire and deserve.
For example, if your situation is that you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed with all the things you have to do each day and don’t seem to have enough time or energy to “do it all”-there is probably a story (or belief about yourself) keeping you stuck in that life scenario. How do we uncover that story? Here’s a hint: You can discover it in what you say about it to others. You might hear yourself say, “If I don’t do it myself, it won’t get done right and I’ll just have to do it over anyway”. Do you hear this persons “story”? Another example might be someone who is in business for him or herself and is struggling making sales and/or making ends meets. This person might be overheard saying something like “Its tough to keep a business going in today’s economy”, or “I just hate it when people try to sell me something-it turns me off”.
By paying attention to your language, you can become more aware of your stories. If changing your stories seems like a daunting task, it is because they can be hard to let go of. This is true for the reason that they served a certain purpose in your life. Even though they created negativity and suffering, they justified your place in the world. They satisfied your ego’s need to be recognized, even if it was to get sympathy or attention from others.
I love Alberto Villoldo’s book “Courageous Dreaming”. He talks about letting go of stories in which you are either a victim, bully or rescuer that keep you in a life of suffering and shares of how you can choose to turn yourself into hero’s instead. This is very similar to the chapter in Eckart Tolles book “A New Earth” that talks about the roles of victim, villain and lover your ego adopts to seek acceptance. Letting go of these roles allows you to function from a deeper core of your being which is in itself a journey to be relished.
You can choose a new story and a new path, and by doing so bring more joy and passion to your journey—this incredible, amazing journey of life in a Universe that believes whatever story you want to create about it!
Debra Betterly, PhD is an Integrative Wellness & Life Coach and Metaphysician whose passion is to help women in midlife master their body, mind and spirit.
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