If you have big goals and dreams and want to achieve them – easier and faster – then, you may need to assess and consider resetting your mental “success thermostat. Here’s what I mean … Picture an air conditioner thermostat that’s set at 75 degrees. When the room temperature reaches 76 or higher, the thermostat kicks on the AC – cooling the room back down to 75. Inside your mind, you’ve got a similar thermostat. Because of preconceived notions or past experiences, it may be set for a certain level of success. And when that level is exceeded, your mental thermostat finds a way to bring you back to the original setting.
I remember in my late 20’s, and early 30’s, I had a mental thermostat of $25,000.00 to $30,000.00 a year. That was all I believed I could achieve. Of course, as a result, the job I got paid me right in that range! Then, as I got older, my self-perceived value increased as a result of my added education and experience to $40,000.00-$45,000.00 a year. Once again, the job and salary I got reflected that! And it was the same job-just a different location!
This goes for success in any area of your life. For example, have you ever lost weight, only to gain it all back? That may have been due to your success thermostat. It was set at a certain weight. When you lost the weight through diet and/or exercise, it registered the loss and did what was necessary to kick things back up to its original setting.
Ultimately, your success thermostat is responsible for how much success you can handle in any given area of your life. In both of these examples, the thermostat is the beliefs and self-image that made you decide what was possible for you, your “deserved” income level or weight to begin with.
Have you ever felt like you can’t break through to the next level of success … whether it’s increasing your income from $40,000 per year to $150,000 (or more) … or even simply taking the first step and researching what’s possible for you to do that would allow you to earn that kind of income? If so, more than likely, it’s your internal thermostat holding you back. As soon as it senses that you’re nearing the breakthrough point, it pulls you back. This may come in the form of fear or anxiety, along with thoughts of self-doubt.
In order to set your thermostat to handle higher levels of success in any area of your life, you’ve got to start on the inside. You’ve got to explore the beliefs and emotions you have as they relate to whatever goal you’re trying to achieve. Once you’ve identified how and why your thermostat was set to where it is now, then you can begin the work to reset it. And when you do, you can expect greater success faster – and with less effort. Here’s a quick rundown on how to do that:
Step 1: Identify your underlying beliefs.
Let’s say your goal is to double your income. But no matter how hard you’ve tried, you can’t seem to break through. Take a moment and think about what you believe about money. For example, do you believe things like, “Money is hard to come by,” or even “Money is evil”? One client I had felt guilty about earning more than his father did, keeping his inner thermostat stuck at the income level of his father. Another client did not believe she had what it took to be successful on her own, so whenever she tried a new business, it would fail and she’d have to go back to work for someone else. Whatever your limiting belief is, by trying to earn more, you’re working against yourself, because of your belief system around money. Make a list of those beliefs that you feel are creating an obstacle to your goal.
Step 2: Identify the emotions attached to your beliefs.
If your beliefs aren’t in line with what you want to accomplish, then chances are your emotions aren’t either. As you review the beliefs you identified in Step 1, notice how you feel about them. Does the thought of having a lot of money make you feel guilty? Do you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable asking people for money when you’re owed? Do you believe that people who have a certain level of income are “crooks” or selfish? Make a list of all the emotions that are working against you.
Step 3: Change those beliefs and emotions you’ve identified.
You want to change the beliefs and emotions you identified in Steps 1 and 2 by replacing them with empowering beliefs that support the achievement of your goal. In a sense, this is how you “reset” your internal success thermostat. You’re re-programming your mind with new beliefs that allow you to handle more success, more responsibility, more abundance, and, ultimately, more of the things you want.
To let go of your old beliefs and emotions, you’ll have to convince yourself of their faulty logic. Realize that they don’t serve you. Then replace them with what you want via affirmations or other positive change methods like visualization. This process will also help you change your self-image from that of who you are now, to the person you want to become. This is important. Because once you’ve cemented the belief that you are the successful person that you want to be, success will come almost automatically. You’ll find yourself doing the things that naturally bring your goals and dreams toward you.
I’ve reset my success thermostat and am attracting amazing people, circumstances and opportunities for generating a much larger income than I have ever before believed possible. These three steps will help you reset your success thermostat. And when you do, expect great things to start happening!
Debra Betterly, PhD is an Integrative Wellness & Life Coach and Metaphysician whose passion is to help women expand their health, joy and purpose in midlife and beyond.
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