Everyone knows a proper diet and consistent exercise is important for a healthy body, but the thoughts and beliefs you have about your body are just as important. If there is a gap in your desired behaviors and your beliefs about your desired behaviors, you are most likely experiencing less than ideal results from your efforts to be healthier.
You have conflicting intentions about your desired physical health and appearance. For example, if your intention is to have a healthy body that looks and feels great, but your underlying “unconscious” intention is that you don’t want to give up any foods you enjoy or you don’t want to add one more thing to your “to do” list, then you are probably going to self-sabotage.
I think many people think they need to make a radical lifestyle change to achieve their desired results, but that’s not true. Drastic changes in the way you eat and/or embarking on an extreme exercise program for someone who is overweight and out of shape is too big a reach. You have to believe you can do it and then maintain that lifestyle for successful weight correction.
If this sounds like you, you might want to start with understanding what you believe, because belief creates the desire needed to follow through. When your desire for a healthy body matches your belief that it’s possible, you will do what it takes to reach that desired outcome.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”. ~ Wayne Dyer, Author and Self Help Pioneer
So stop thinking about yourself in any way that will lead to what you don’t want. I know it’s not easy to change the way you think about your body living in a culture that promotes feeling bad about yourself for profits. But, when you buy into the collective brainwashing, you set yourself up for self-defeating behaviors. You have to believe in something that seems “unbelievable”, knowing as you practice this new way of thinking, you will develop a new relationship with your body, and you will start behaving differently.
The mind-body connection has been clearly established in medical and scientific research. Negative beliefs foster negative emotions that produce a chemical reaction in your body. Your beliefs are thoughts and thoughts are energy. This energy is communicated to your body. So if a part of you strongly believes that no matter what you do, you will not be able to lose the weight, then you are creating an energy that is self defeating.
Practicing positive thoughts or thoughts that feel better, returns you to balance by aligning with your desire to feel healthy and look better and your behaviors follow accordingly. The key here is to stop being focused on what you don’t want and begin the process of self-acceptance where ever you are by thinking in terms of self-love and self-respect which feels sooo much better!
The late Dr. Dyer proposed in his book “Being in Balance”, to think, feel and say affirmations that are more supportive, even if you don’t believe them at first, such as, “I love my body and I’m going to take care of it because it is a sacred vessel for the wonderful being that I am.” By repeating this every day, you can train your subconscious mind to believe it. Your body will love you for it and gradually your lifestyle behavior habits will begin to shift because it will be impossible to NOT act on your new belief. You will be more relaxed, trusting and knowing your new thoughts will attract the health you desire. You will “stumble upon” the perfect solutions specifically for you. And, it won’t be a struggle. Worth a try don’t you think?
Debra Betterly, PhD is an Integrative Wellness & Life Coach and Metaphysician whose passion is to help women in midlife master their body, mind and spirit.
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