Staying True to Yourself and your true purpose in every stage of life starts with knowing yourself.  In midlife, your goals and behaviors become more “soul” driven than any other time in your life. You were not born into this world just to take up space, ever. Nor are you here to be miserable or unfulfilled, ever. You are here for a reason, most likely, many reasons. Your existence, no matter what stage of life you are in, is vital to all who are connected to you (which is everyone). In midlife, you have a wealth of experience to draw from and the way you view the world is unique to you, no other person see’s it the way you do. Universal Laws are laws that govern our lives. Just like physical laws, like gravity, they are true for everyone, everywhere, all the time, no matter what. The Universal Laws of Self are the catalyst to creating your world in alignment with your personal midlife wants, needs and desires.

So what are your wants, needs and desires? To truly know yourself and your true purpose in midlife, you need to unwrap the real you, which you may have been hiding beneath doubts, fears, guilt’s and other negatives over the years. These subconscious feelings have played a role in developing your unique personality.

However, your personality is not your true self, although it is how others see you. Your personality is the person you present to others. Your personality is part of the illusion that covers up your true self, your soul qualities. Your true self is your individuality and it is made up of all your life experiences and life challenges that have caused you to evolve and shape you into the spiritual being you are today.  It is the diamond in the rough. It is the butterfly in the chrysalis. It has always been there and always will be. You do not have to create it; you only have to find it.

The process of finding your true self is a practice of unwrapping or releasing the guilt, the fear, the shame and all those negative and misleading concepts of self to allow your true self, your higher self, your god-like self to shine in the world.

Here are three Universal Laws of Self that are the keys to unwrapping those veils of illusion and knowing your true self.

  1. The Law of Individuality: This law says, as you honor, respect, and love your own unique individuality, so you honor, respect and love the individuality of others. Service to others is a demonstration of your true self which is love, kindness, peace, joy, and compassion. Only to the degree that you know and love yourself (your individuality) can your truly know and love others AND loving others shows you to your true self.
  2. The Law of Equality: This law is based on the understanding that we all come from the same source, are part of the same energy and were created equal. It says your true needs, wants, desires, hopes, dreams, wishes, and their fulfillment are as important as those of any other soul in existence. You are not higher or lower than anyone, but equal in spirit. In order to apply this law and live in accordance with your true self, you need to know what makes you joyful, what makes you comfortable deep within, what feels right and good to you and what you love to do. These are the needs, wants, desires and goals of the true self. When you have determined them and honor them, you are aligning yourself with your true self and only then can you truly honor the same in others.
  3. The Law of Priority: This law says that if you wish to help others, it is required that your first priority is to care for yourself spiritually, mentally and physically. Love and nurture yourself as much as you love and nurture anyone else. It also means to not move in opposition to what feels right to you, even if this conflicts with another. Even if you have the best intentions, do not go beyond the point of negating the self. By doing so you are saying that the goals, needs and wants of another are more important than your own and the Spirit within you is less important than the soul of another. Always honor the presence within you and do not place another person, situation, or condition higher than that presence. 

These laws show you the importance of knowing, honoring and respecting your true self (self-love) and that what you give in service to others must be in harmony with your true self.  They ask you to not always feel you must have approval of the majority because that depletes the true self. They also mean to be open and aware that others, too, have much to offer you. Your true purpose on earth is to recognize, honor and accept the spirit within yourself and from that knowing you will find joy, love, purpose and guidance as you transition into creating your best midlife and beyond.

Namaste – The Spirit in me honors the Spirit in you


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Debra Betterly, PhD is an Integrative Wellness & Life Coach and Metaphysician whose passion is to help women expand their health, joy and purpose in midlife and beyond.

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