Every day you have a choice. Imagine your life as a journey, day by day, you are traveling toward a destination which represents your dreams and goals. Your destination is your desired future. Imagine also that your thoughts, feelings and behaviors are your map, your guide to your destination of choice. How you choose to think, feel and behave creates your journey and ultimately your destination. If you choose to travel unconsciously, without any real awareness of where you want to go or end up, you will keep getting lost, taking detours that lead to undesirable locations, and finding that, over time, you never arrive at the place in your life you really want to be or worse, never enjoy the journey. But, when you take conscious control of the “wheel” of your life and become fully aware of your patterns of reaction, you can begin to feel certain that you will arrive at your desired outcome while fully enjoying the trip! This will require practicing full awareness of your mental and emotional responses to life. When a boulder gets thrown in your path, instead of retreating, complaining, giving up, or just sitting there feeling sorry for yourself, you can make a more enlightened choice to find a new way, via higher thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
To become more aware of your thoughts, you must first be open to examining your feelings and emotions. When you notice along the way that challenges do come up, and some of those challenges will produce an uncomfortable or negative feeling, you’ll find the source of those feelings and behaviors is directly connected to what you are thinking. When you find your journey is being fueled with unwanted feelings and behaviors, and you discover the thoughts behind them, consider the positive thought options available to you and ask yourself: “Why not take the positive route instead?”
If you find yourself continuously choosing a route that takes you further away from your goals and dreams, in other words, making choices that dishonor or disempower you, decide that you can consciously make the choice to release those habits and make a choice to change your thoughts. The road to your destination will never be perfect. You may miss your turn, run into a roadblock or encounter bad weather, but that is part of the adventure! By “course-correcting” your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, one day at a time, you will consciously reach your destination and have a whole lot of fun along the way! The choice is yours.
Debra Betterly, PhD is an Integrative Wellness & Life Coach and Metaphysician whose passion is to help women in midlife master their body, mind and spirit.
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