Every time we are getting ready to enter a new year, we often become acutely aware of the passage of time and how short life really is. This is a good thing as it creates a sense of urgency and is a great stopper of procrastination! This is also a good time to review the “Be, Do, Have” principle. It goes like this, “BE the person you dream of by DOING the things you dream, and you will HAVE the things you dream of having.” This is the natural order. BE first, DO second, HAVE third.
To make absolute certain you are moving in the right direction as you go into the new year, it will be important to know what your terms and criteria for your life are, and if reality seems to be moving you away from being who you want to be, or is no longer meeting your criteria, you can adjust who you are being and what you are doing.
What does your dream life look like? What if you could have it all? What if you could have a great and rich life without compromising on the quality of any area of your life? How is that different from your current reality? Write it down. Enjoy the dream. Have fun with your answers. Once you have that established, you will have your basis for your goals. You will stop wasting time doing what you don’t want and start spending more time doing what you love.
You don’t need to bail out on your reality 100% or all at once if it looks very different than your dream life. Creating the change you want to see will be a process and as you stay clear about what you want and are honest about where you are, you will be able to design a plan and a strategy that will continually move you forward.
One way to make this happen is by the daily choices you make to move towards what you want. Stay focused and aware of your feelings as they will be your guide. Give consideration to your daily needs and give attention to what makes you feel better. You can learn to develop that part of yourself that continues to check in to see where you are and assists you in the redefining of your reality. It is essential to consistently have an accurate picture of what’s going on in your life, where you are in relation to where you want to be and how you are feeling about it.
As you do this, you will be guided toward the resources and ideas that will help shift your reality, and you will be required to take action. As you move closer to you dream you may also notice new fears emerging. This is natural and part of the process! By practicing your awareness of these fears and the feelings that accommodate them, identifying the truth about them will be part of your transition.
This is a powerful process in trusting your own judgment about what is the right and best path for you and it all begins by getting clear about what you want and exploring how it would be if you truly could “have it all”.
If you are ready to take an honest look at your reality, and most important, what you believe to be real and identify what is real, what is a judgment or opinion (that might not be real-but conditioned in you from childhood), and where you might be using reality as an excuse to abandon your dream, then hiring a life coach could make all the difference. Coaching can help you see who you are, not who you think you are or who you think you are supposed to be.
I believe you know (at a certain level) exactly what you want and what your dream come true life would look like for you. I believe you also know the reality of what’s stopping you. Isn’t it time to have your dream become your reality? Be the person you dream of by doing the things you dream! To your absolute freedom, health and prosperity!
Debra Betterly, PhD is an Integrative Wellness & Life Coach and Metaphysician whose passion is to help women in midlife master their body, mind and spirit.
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